On February 13, I got engaged to the love of my life, Deanna Johnson. We will be getting married this May.
It’s been interesting to talk with non-believers about our relationship.
- “What?!? You don’t have sex?”
- “What?!? You don’t live together?”
- “What?!? You still make time for other people and live in community?”
As we explain to people that we believe that God wants us to remain pure until marriage, the response is almost always the same.
“Wow! Well, that’s cool … for you.“
Usually, the person will share a snapshot of their relationship history, usually full of brokenness and unhappiness.
I honestly heard one person say the following:
“We’ve lived together for three years, but I don’t know if I want him to be the father of my kids.”
From my experience, almost nothing points clearer to the existence of God and the truth and power behind his principles for living than his plan for marriage. A life lived with God as he intended is such a better way to live, yet people want to exclude themselves. It may be a good principle, but it’s just not for them.
You have put more joy in my heart
than they have when their grain and new wine abound. – Psalm 4:7
I pray that our marriage would be a chance for God’s light and truth to shine through us, and that he would be glorified in everything we say and do.
So incredibly happy for you
ah, yes, THOSE questions. for me, engagement was such a great opportunity to be a witness to others who maybe only had a slight idea that I was living my life for God. I encourage you to start allowing God’s light and truth to shine clearly through your engagement, and it will be even easier in marriage! (also, engagement can be REALLY long, so it’s a good reminder of the purpose of that stage God has allowed your relationship to enter!)