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Talented friends
I love these guys … hope this video gets a trillion hits.
Married Bliss
I don’t usually post pictures, but I think this qualifies as a special occasion. Big thanks to Garrett Hufford for some excellent (and very reasonably priced) photography!
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(my family posing under giant flowers for a new Dr. Seuss book)
As for actual life after marriage…
Deanna and I are beginning our “happily ever after” in a tiny apartment right in downtown Iowa City. We live on the third floor above a fine dining restaurant, a body piercing studio, a local clothing store, a liquor store, a fine art studio, and a cheap Chinese diner called “Chilly Yummy” that we’ve witnessed turn into a gothic dance club at night (no joke). I don’t know who is in charge of city planning here, but somehow it all seems perfectly normal compared to coming home after work to a wife.
What a blessing!
Thank God our wedding was about so much more than just one day, but about all the days afterwards which have been so much more fulfilling.
The Serious Post on Marriage
I was at a local downtown concert a few weeks ago with an older friend of mine who is married. It was a very “relevant” concert, and all of the cool kids were there. My older friend said something along the lines of, “I’d rather be home with my wife, but I’ve got too much pride to admit that I don’t belong here anymore.
The key word he said was rather. He didn’t say, “I should be home with my wife,” he said, “I’d rather be home.”
There’s a big difference.
A few years ago I made a mental commitment to myself. As I saw my friends get sucked away from the things that I thought mattered towards girlfriends and marriage, I told myself that I would never let myself become irrelevant. In other words, even if I got married, it wouldn’t change anything about me.
I’m here to say that I’m breaking that commitment.
Before I started dating Deanna, I had a good friend wisely instruct me, “Be sure to let her change you.”
And change me she has. I feel wiser, older, happier, more dependable, more consistent, and with a deeper understanding of Christ’s love because of her. Call that gushy if you want, but I’ll stand by it.
I’m coming to the realization that if I never go to another concert, never go to another football game, never record another album, never buy another guitar, never smoke hookah again, and never play another video game, I’ll be ok.
Much more than ok, honestly. I’ll be married.
… When he found one priceless pearl, he went and sold everything he had … (Matthew 13:46)
I’m wide awake! It’s midnight!
- Fighting off the “I hate everyone because I’m tired” attitude at church after working an overnight.
- Choosing which social activities you have to miss because you have to schedule time to sleep.
- Experiencing football season through Chris Berman’s “Fastest 3 Minutes” rather than actually watching the games.
- Being unable to differientiate between hunger and wierd stomach aches at 5am, and usually guessing wrong.
- Never enjoying a drink with friends on the weekends (except maybe a Mountain Dew), and feeling like an alcoholic when you try and encourage people to share one with you on Monday night.
- Feeling like a bum Monday through Friday while everyone else works, and your other job duties include “thinking up songs to play,” “checking your email,” “playing guitar,” and “having lunch with people.” http://jamesfromames.wordpress.com/2012/03/11/perceptions-of-worship-leading/
- Trying to say something half-way meaningful during Monday morning staff meeting, and usually just making everyone laugh.
- Having your internal body clock perpetually set to “I have no idea what’s going on.”
- Knowing that a large coffee from any gas station costs exactly $1.59 after tax, and that the hazelnut, mocha, vanilla, banana, and pumpkin flavoring options are all equally mediocre.
- Having the head pastor tell you that it doesn’t even bother him when he notices you sleeping during his message.
Engagement is fun
Marriage is a very, very serious thing.
Two weeks from today, I will be a married man. I’ll probably write a more serious post on that later, because marriage is a really really really big deal, but that will not be this post.
This post will be fun, and people who are engaged need to have fun. If you’ve ever been engaged, you’ll know what I’m talking about.
When you get engaged, you decide that you should probably know a little bit more about marriage. Most people around you support your decision (especially if they are married) and agree with you that you are clueless and need help. You are given books on marriage, and you decide to read them with your fiance.
The books and the people tell you that marriage is hard. They tell you that having a successful marriage is harder than making bricks without straw. They tell you that loving another person is like going to war, which makes you think of the time when your little brother knocked over your lego tower “on purpose” and your mom told you that you still had to love him. Your fiance doesn’t like this analogy of war because you don’t have war-like problems yet, and you don’t like comparing her to your brother, so you don’t finish the book.
You are also given books on sex, but you are told not to read them just yet, because your mind will take you places that your body isn’t quite allowed to go. Some people tell you not to read those books and that it will all “work itself out.” Other people tell you that these books are second only to the Bible in their importance.
You talk it over with your fiance about whether or not to read these books. You start reading, but not so much as a result of an actual decision to read them as much pure curiousity. You find yourself speeding across the pages, and feeling a strange sense of both enlightenment and embarassment. You hide the book as if it were a dirty magazine, and hope that none of your roommates walk in on you while you read it, even though the chapter you just read quoted several Bible verses.
You start talking with your parents about your life more regularly than you did when you were living under their roof. You talk and try to balance their wishes and plans alongside your fiance’s parents, who were total stangers to you a year ago but who you will soon refer to as “mom and dad” too. You are constantly reminded that “it’s your wedding, and you can do whatever you want,” but all you really want is for both moms and dads to be happy. You also want everyone else to be happy, and you see that oftentimes one person’s happiness comes at another’s expense. Or, you can try and make both people happy at the expense of your wallet.
You want to be responsible and make a budget, but you quickly realize that your budget was impossible because you had never planned a wedding before. You might as well have been making a budget for sending a man to Mars or filming Transformers 5. You throw idealistic numbers into a google spreadsheet, and then show up to meet with the florist from hy-vee feeling a little like the guy rolling dice at the casino, hoping for lucky numbers.
You want to have a small wedding. Then you realize that you have to invite certian close friends. Then you realize that if you invite those close friends, you should probably invite other friends, who are also friends with your close friends. Then you realize that your parents want to invite their friends. Then you realize you’re planning a big wedding. You mail out invites, and start seeing and thinking about people who you realize you forgot. You send out more invites. Then you realize you’ve forgotten to invite your friend from Pennsylvania who had you in their wedding party several years ago. You invite people from your Bible study group, just because they’re in your Bible study group, and then those people stop coming to Bible study. You send them an invitation anyway and wonder if they will think that their invitation is a form of missions outreach.
Engagement is a wonderful time. So wonderful, in fact, that I wouldn’t want it to last another day longer than it has to.
True Perfection
“My identity was as a baseball player,” he said. “How I evaluated myself was my stat line. If my stat line was great I felt good about myself. If it wasn’t then I didn’t feel so good. It took me a long time to figure it isn’t about me, or us. Whatever we do, we should be doing to glorify God. I’m not saying I’ll always be successful for that attitude or always have a good game, but I will be a more joyful person.”
Adoleo Spring Concert
May 1, 2012. 8pm at the Englert Theater.
We’ve got some good new stuff we’ve been working on this semester, and hope you can join us!
Dream Job
- Learn how to do the job of every Sunday morning and Tuesday night volunteer. (Lights/Sound/Lyrics)
- Put considerable effort and energy into every Sunday and Tuesday service.
- Get to know every church volunteer and help them see how important and valuable their work is (1 Corinthians 12:21-26)
- Raise up at least one more sound guy and at least one more worship leader (2 Timothy 2:2)
- Start a “semi-professional” blog, sharing my experiences and contributing to the modern worship leading blog community.
- Learn how to read sheet music for piano
- Produce an Adoleo album that I can be really proud of
- Learn how to play violin
- Learn how to play the flute
- Learn everything there is to know about producing live sound
- Experiment with incorporating a choir into Sunday morning worship
- Make friends with worship leaders in other churches
- Learn to play the drums
- Write a book on worship songwriting and get published
- Lead a multi-racial gospel music team
- Write a musical
Does it feel warmer than usual outside?
“I’m no meteorological martyr or Paul Revere – but I’ve seen enough evidence to make a call on this one. It’s either the greatest scientific hoax ever perpetrated on the people of Earth or the climate scientists are correct. Call me crazy but I think it’s possible to lean to the right, and still care about the environment and sound science.” – Shawn Lawrence Otto